Friendship grants

In Rediff’s review of Kai Po Che, there’s a line that goes “Quoting from Bollywood, impromptu excursions and taking each other for granted without guilt is the prerogative of buddy-dom,…” That’s probably arguable, but if it is right, I now understand why my buddy count has been low since inception.

The first – excursions – I think, can be handled. That’s despite my obsession with planning. 🙂 The second is a completely different story though. I hate taking people for granted and if I end up doing it and realising it later, I get guilt pangs even after apologising. It probably comes from the premise that I hate being taken for granted and thus the “Do unto others as you would have them do to you” gets applied.

I can only vaguely begin to understand a friendship where people are taken for granted, but just thinking about it gives the other kind of friendship a cold formal feel. Once again, I think it’s a middle path scene – how a friend handles the freedom and treats it as a responsibility would define the relationship. How does it work for you?

until next time, grants and prices