Since our man has the annoying habit of deleting posts, i havent been able to yet locate his take on it, but i have read her take on it.
The subject in question is that the young parents of today outsource the job of parenting to their parents and treat them worse than housemaids… Now, i think a lot of grandparents love being with their grandchildren, perhaps for the simple reason that their children dont have the time anyway. Its an arrangement that works for everyone concerned. Does that make it right? no, but that doesnt make it wrong either.
The subject in question is that the young parents of today outsource the job of parenting to their parents and treat them worse than housemaids… Now, i think a lot of grandparents love being with their grandchildren, perhaps for the simple reason that their children dont have the time anyway. Its an arrangement that works for everyone concerned. Does that make it right? no, but that doesnt make it wrong either.
We happen to be in a generation that is bearing the brunt of a drastic change in lifestyles and therefore mindsets. Being 30 year old parents is a bit like being between the proverbial devil and the deep blue sea – feeling guilty of not doing much for the parents and knowing that the chances of their kid looking after them are very slim…So perhaps it is a good thing to put the two stakeholders of their time together, and meanwhile working their butt off to ensure that they themselves have a good tomorrow.. now, can they be really blamed for trying to a get a bit of happiness out of today also… maybe not, because they are paying for it in their own way..
Meanwhile, taking a leaf out of the aforementioned annoying man’s book ;), this sums it up
Meanwhile, taking a leaf out of the aforementioned annoying man’s book ;), this sums it up
until next time, not just kidding
i see a win win situation but don’t see it working unless you throw in the conscience.
i loved my didima taking care of me .
i didnt even WANT my mum around.. much to her chagrin.
now i miss my mumsy. dam yoo.
And what do you have to say about old age homes? All those sappy movies have given them a “place-for-unwanted-parents” image.
hmmmmmmm….painfully serious
scarry 🙁
sad.
I dont see this changing.
I’m hoping my mum would raise my child if i ever have one
sreejith: agree, but even thats subjective
gg: dam mi?!!!
AP: a lot of people do it for lack of options, and some do it out of need. like i said, since this is a generation in the middle, i think (hope) it will become a sector in itself (like they are doing with reverse mortgaging now) and therefore an option my generation will choose when they get old
layon: yup, but need not be painful
stone: but workable
austere: would disagree, i think it will change with the generations involved
san: xactly, and theres nothing wrong with that