Was chatting with a friend last week on the complexity of human relationships. Of course, she is of the view that it is not so complex after all, and i tend to complicate it with my penchant for over analysis 😀 I admit to the anlaysis bit, but in this case, am not convinced about it being undue. Double the negative, double the fun.
Coincidentally, also saw a movie last weekend, which brought out my stance almost perfectly, almost, because the character of the protagonist does a U-turn midway. Anyways, the crux of the matter is that i believe that every relationship, even, rather especially the close ones are tinged with a selfish motive, actually, not tinged, more a strong undercurrent. There are precious few exceptions.
It depends on the individual’s choice whether this gets acknowledged or not, but i strongly feel that there is always currency involved, and it is not always unconditional love or any such seemingly pure emotion… the acknowledgement does not happen perhaps because we mould ourselves to fit into a society and its forms of expression…The undercurrent may be that of emotional security, convenience or anything else – based on the situation, but its most definitely there. And for every help/favor/token of affection etc there isa meter ticking, some of us keep it in mind, and some of us keep it deep in the recesses of our mind
until next time, mind it 🙂
Absolutely!
And most acknowledge it as ‘networking’..
every human deed is to an extent self centered. One need not look at it with a moralistic view, since whats prescribed by nature cannot be held against a creature.
unconditional love , which a parent feels towards a child, is more or less instictive and as have observed tends to wane and morph into expectations etc in later years.
In a world where even the gods have a give and take policy, how can one divorce ourselves from this truth?
Most of us are only as good as our last word/deed/thought….
Does this have anythign to do with return comments or return gifts?
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it sure is complex
I had discovered 107 types of human relations…discovered the 108th type today morning 😉
And for every help/favor/token of affection etc there isa meter ticking, some of us keep it in mind, and some of us keep it deep in the recesses of our mind
I agree with you with the above line, especially since we live in a materialistic world. It seems a bit scary when I read your post, especially the line above. However, there are still few exceptions in my life and I suddenly feel a glaring need to go and acknowledge their importance 🙂
Shobha
Is there? A meter ticking I mean?
I ve read somewhere that the more we put into a relationship time, efforts, emotions, money.. the more we value it. 🙂
When I first read this, I thought analysing sure runs in the family.
To which someone we both know commented a couple of days ago that over-analysis runs in the family.
*Grin.
I was thinking on the same lines of the “selfish motive” part some days back.
MAAN: yes, these days it does boil down to that…
TOI: aren’t we assuming its prescribed by nature?
austere: haha, no… but now that you’ve drawn attention to it…lol
burf: that it is
layon : 😀
shobha: yup, good to do that
madhu: see, we are already putting values to it 🙂
hyde: did? missed it
deepika: i guess we all acknowledge it once in a while