I know, I know. First, a legendary place, Second, after some 300+ restaurant posts here. But that’s precisely why I decided to post this, despite a relatively small meal.
This is practically an international trip from Whitefield, but since we had to be in the vicinity to get the visa for an actual trip, we decided to drop in at Millers 46, a legit old-school Bangalore establishment. On a Friday afternoon, the crowd was sparse, and that worked just fine for us.
(more…)Kai-fu Lee
Kai-Fu Lee wasn’t a name familiar to me until I heard him in a podcast where he was talking about the book. Based in China, he is considered an expert in AI, and has worked with Google, Microsoft, and Apple. The book has an interesting structure consisting of ten stories, with a commentary by Lee after every story on the subjects covered in it. The storytelling is in collaboration with Chen Quifan, a Chinese science fiction writer, and the translations have been done by a handful of folks.
(more…)Once upon a time, the only kind of death that would have been written about here would be Death by Chocolate from Corner House. But middle age brings its own set of journeys.
I don’t remember being afraid of death. I think it was only reinforced after my heart attacked me in 2021! Even during the trip to the hospital and the procedures, I don’t remember being afraid. I wondered later whether it was a remnant of the arrogance of an earlier self – you know, the aura of invincibility and immortality we (or at least I) had around the 20s. They have reduced it to a single word now – swag.
(more…)Marshall Goldsmith, Mark Reiter
I chanced upon the book courtesy a Farnam Street podcast. In the introduction, Marshall Goldsmith shares an anecdote about Red Hayes, who wrote the song “Satisfied Mind” getting his inspiration from his father-in-law, who when asked who was the richest main the world said, “it is the man with a satisfied mind.” And that, ultimately, is the point of this book – to use your time to live a fulfilling life with minimal regrets.
The book has two parts – Choosing your life, and Earning your life. Roughly, the theory and the practice. In the first part, Goldsmith begins with the perfect role model – the Buddha and his “every breath paradigm” – ‘every breath I take is a new me’, the ideas being impermanence and attachment. On a related note, I loved the book’s epigraph too – Presume not that I am the thing that I was (Shakespeare). In essence, fulfilment can neither be achieved by wallowing in memories nor by a living based on a “I’ll be happy when…” premise. Essentially, it has to be earned every moment.
The second chapter addresses ‘What’s stopping you from creating your own life?” and has some very good summation of the things that hold us back – inertia, programming (conditioning), obligation, lack of imagination, the dizzying pace of change, and being ‘narcotised’ by vicarious living (mimetic desire). In the next chapter he outlines the four qualities + two factors required for us to succeed – motivation, ability, understanding, confidence, support and marketplace.
The fifth chapter, about aspiration, was the one that I found to be most insightful. I usually use a can-want-need framework for my decision-making, but this one was a far more elegant framing – action-ambition-aspiration. I really liked the articulation of the nuance between ambition and aspiration. Ambition is what we want to achieve, aspiration is who we want to become. The path to a fulfilled life happens when all three are aligned. In my case, I face tug-of-wars between ambition and aspiration. This gives me a compass to align.
Another excellent framing I found was opportunity vs risk, as opposed to the more common reward vs risk framing. This is related to the three As. Action is relatively immediate, ambition has a defined time, and aspiration is infinite. By being very conscious of the alignment when gauging opportunity and risk, one can have a better understanding of the risks one is willing to take, and thus make better choices.
While all the chapters have exercises at the end, the second section has more weightage on practice. I must confess that I am not comfortable with measuring this movement to a better life, but I am beginning to see some use cases thanks to this book. I found a very good framing called the Credibility Matrix with axes of ‘making a positive difference’ and ‘proving yourself’ which helps determine whether proving yourself to someone is a worthwhile activity. This was useful to me because I believe in letting my work talk, but Goldsmith proves why sometimes I’d have to talk! This is related to the ‘confidence’ quality in Chapter 2, and thus merits more thought.
As a world-renowned executive coach, Goldsmith has the experience, expertise and the wisdom to frame and articulate the building blocks of living a fulfilling life. He does that extremely well in this book, and provided me perspectives that I hadn’t considered earlier.
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In a few hundred years, when the history of our time will be written from a long-term perspective, it is likely that the most important event historians will see is not technology, not the internet, not e-commerce. It is an unprecedented change in the human condition. For the first time- literally-substantial and rapidly growing number of people have choices. For the first time, they will have to manage themselves. And society is totally unprepared for it. ~ Peter Drucker
A while ago, on a brewery darshan tour in South Bangalore, we had visited The Pump House in JP Nagar, and instantly loved the vibe, and the beer. We were thrilled therefore, when sometime last year, we saw their signage in Whitefield while on our way to er, another brewery! A few days later, we dropped in, though they hadn’t started brewing then. Raining on the parade literally happened, and thanks to their teething issues being exacerbated by the rain, our experience was less than meh. But when there’s craft beer involved, there’s always a second chance. And this time we took friends along. Why suffer alone!
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